Just wanted to share a song by Kelly Clarkson that I enjoy hearing. Hope you do too!!
Monday, April 23, 2012
Saturday, April 14, 2012
Humor Me!
When there's lemons, I love making lemonade. But sometimes, I make freshly squeezed orange juice from lemons.
I may go out a little more than usual from what I wanted to say but, of course, no real names due to respect. I never understood how a person can want another and expect more from what they, themselves give. I mean, I know we all have to try and reach higher than usual but lets be conscious and respect the other person as well. From experience, if I give you the time of day to reply to your messages and be neat to go out because you said its a fancy place and you show up with old sneakers, then I will rethink about what you are about. Not because those sneakers are old, but there's something missing from what your projecting out. If I go out my way to wear cute shoes and a dazzling necklace and your shirt screams gym time, hahahah (real laugh), then I will definetly, rethink about 'us'. If we both try then we, together can make it. At least to some level of understanding.
Another thing, if your partner wants to end what ever you have together and you ask for another chance...AND are given another BUT still act the same. you lost already. C'mon that person gave you another chance, why mess it up, if you really wanted to be back. That second chance meant more effort coming from you who wanted the 2nd chance, more effort into knowing and realizing what was missing from the first time and actually trying to make it. And when I mean try, it doesn't mean today then tomorrow no. Or that the person giving you the chance has to wait a whole year to see a difference. So lets be mindful and accept that certains things we did with our Ex's doesn't need to be repeated with the next. Unless you have proof, the person is still around because of it.
I'm not bashing anyone out just making sure that I wasn't going crazy with some people I have meet. I know it takes a while to meet someone to grow old with but along the way, we may meet some crazies. Some of them actually make me laugh till this very day. With them...and at them.
I don't regret or treat them negative, I just accept the fact that the world has many different personalities that we may never understand. So we just...move on. So when I do and we agree to be friends and I just randomly say something like, 'so what's down'..they don't do/say nothing. I mean,. THINK. Seriously, just THINK. Everyone says 'what's up' so I sometimes just say the opposite of the usual...'what's down'. Now the way you take it its your problem. If its funny I'll laugh. But if its not, I'll still laugh at you. :-) Eightor way, we are having fun. The downside, some just don't get it. So that sweet little person that understands more about a certain type of humor doesn't come out to everyone. If she does, consider yourself lucky. You Lucky dog you, but it doesn't matter if you don't get it. Its a part of me you'll need to understand and appreciate as you get to know me, and when you do, I'll know. Then we'll just skip around the world and end up in the Grand Canyon singing and dancing to the lyrics to "Everyday I'm Shufflin" by LMFAO.
Won't that be a nice picture? ;-)
xoxo
-sweetmanhattangirl-
Now who in the world would understand me and my neurons. I think when I find someone, other than my mini-me, who can stimulate my brain to make more 'orange juice from lemons' then I have lived. Well, not exactly. But that's another story.
I may go out a little more than usual from what I wanted to say but, of course, no real names due to respect. I never understood how a person can want another and expect more from what they, themselves give. I mean, I know we all have to try and reach higher than usual but lets be conscious and respect the other person as well. From experience, if I give you the time of day to reply to your messages and be neat to go out because you said its a fancy place and you show up with old sneakers, then I will rethink about what you are about. Not because those sneakers are old, but there's something missing from what your projecting out. If I go out my way to wear cute shoes and a dazzling necklace and your shirt screams gym time, hahahah (real laugh), then I will definetly, rethink about 'us'. If we both try then we, together can make it. At least to some level of understanding.
Another thing, if your partner wants to end what ever you have together and you ask for another chance...AND are given another BUT still act the same. you lost already. C'mon that person gave you another chance, why mess it up, if you really wanted to be back. That second chance meant more effort coming from you who wanted the 2nd chance, more effort into knowing and realizing what was missing from the first time and actually trying to make it. And when I mean try, it doesn't mean today then tomorrow no. Or that the person giving you the chance has to wait a whole year to see a difference. So lets be mindful and accept that certains things we did with our Ex's doesn't need to be repeated with the next. Unless you have proof, the person is still around because of it.
I'm not bashing anyone out just making sure that I wasn't going crazy with some people I have meet. I know it takes a while to meet someone to grow old with but along the way, we may meet some crazies. Some of them actually make me laugh till this very day. With them...and at them.
I don't regret or treat them negative, I just accept the fact that the world has many different personalities that we may never understand. So we just...move on. So when I do and we agree to be friends and I just randomly say something like, 'so what's down'..they don't do/say nothing. I mean,. THINK. Seriously, just THINK. Everyone says 'what's up' so I sometimes just say the opposite of the usual...'what's down'. Now the way you take it its your problem. If its funny I'll laugh. But if its not, I'll still laugh at you. :-) Eightor way, we are having fun. The downside, some just don't get it. So that sweet little person that understands more about a certain type of humor doesn't come out to everyone. If she does, consider yourself lucky. You Lucky dog you, but it doesn't matter if you don't get it. Its a part of me you'll need to understand and appreciate as you get to know me, and when you do, I'll know. Then we'll just skip around the world and end up in the Grand Canyon singing and dancing to the lyrics to "Everyday I'm Shufflin" by LMFAO.
Won't that be a nice picture? ;-)
xoxo
-sweetmanhattangirl-
Now who in the world would understand me and my neurons. I think when I find someone, other than my mini-me, who can stimulate my brain to make more 'orange juice from lemons' then I have lived. Well, not exactly. But that's another story.
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
Ready Or Not...
Hello World,
Its a beautiful Tuesday morning as I type this. Listening to 96.7FM K-Love radio. A station I find peace and be calm when I start listening to their wonder christian music.
I hope everyone is enjoying their Tuesday and sharing their thoughts to someone they trust. I have someone I can communicate with and I want to remind you that if you don't have someone you can talk to, I am here. I'm not a professional councelor. One thing I learned and alot of people have a hard time knowing this is that, we usually give 'advice' when we should be guiding others to decide on their own. Of course, you bring out ideas but I tend to always mention that it all depends on them and their situation. We have so many resources around us that we can use. (Excuse the people who are limited to them, sorry) What I was thinking about my life when I was younger...as in a teen having a baby. I remember thinking what in the wrong is this. I do thank some ladies in my highschool that offered me help and talked to me about different options in life. Talking to me about that it doesn't disable me to many wonderful things in life just because I will have a baby at a young age. Matter of fact, thinking right now, they were right. I had fun growing up with my kid. Playing with her like she was my younger sister. BUT please, if your a teen reading this, don't think that all was peachy and you can have a better life for yourself. It all works out to different people in different situations. Please don't mistake this that I am saying having a baby at a young age is better!
OK, so where was I...so yea, I had a few resources next to me and learn a limited information about certain things in life. Being still in highschool how was I suppose to pay for babysitter, extra food, milk, diapers, baby clothes...and more....and more. Phew!!! that was alot of things and being jobless but in school. One thing my mom told me was she wasn't going to let me drop out that I had to finish school...or she won't help. Of course, I needed the help and finshed highschool. Did exactly 4 years and got my diploma. (not those GED or special programs but the actual diploma). Was very happy to finish and having a mom and kid right next to me, supporting me. I was reaching higher.
But not all was peachy, teens keep reading..Within all that, I had to move. Move in a way that I was a teen but adult. I was always the quiet one but I had to make my voice known, somehow. I struggled with being in a relationship at first then single. Which worked out better for me and my child. I had to move in a way that I, myself had to get the resources I need to keep moving up in life. I was always scared of talking to people, thinking I was asking stupid questions or afraid I'll get lost in certain places. But I would always think abuot my child, how I need to do things for her. Kept my chin up and walked to job interviews, asked questions in the community for kindergarten (schooling), learn my way around little by little...along with my mom who was an expert already. So, I was doing things that a 15 year old shouldn't be doing at that age but at an age that was appropiate. Meaning, ready and secure to have a baby.
What I mean is that, I wasn't ready for child. I wasn't going to have an abortion nor send for adoption. I made my mind that i was going to be a mom. I wasn't ready, in every aspect of life, I wasn't. Many teens consciously, make that mistake that they are ready to have a baby. But if you knew the work you put into it, you'll agree.
Ask yourself this, do you have money right now? Not $10 dollars. I mean money that if you need to move out you have enough for a year at least? Do you have a job that pays well that you can save money, not living pay check by pay check? Do you think you'll have the support if you end up single? If so, what's the support...your parents, a descent job? There's alot of this we need to consider before having a baby. It takes alot of patients, alot of courage, alot of financial support. Now please don't think that because you are in a relationship (to teens) that will last forever (that's a different story)...and you'll have his money to depend on. I am asking YOU, YOURSELF, YOUR OWN BODY, do you have the extra money to fall back on? Are you prepared that if one day, your partner doesn't come back, you can manage on your own? Never thought of that right? Well it happens. He can promise he'll be there but it can be so over whelming that some men just leave because its too much for them. Others end the relationship and make their own life. Some may help every now and then with financial support but again, if your both teens. He's probably in the same boat, financially.
I know I may sometimes, come out to blunt about certain things in life but if no one is willing to speak to you about somesthings in life then you won't think before you act. I mean no disrespect to teens moms, I was one myself, but this part of my blog is about giving you the chance to THINK about what you want in life. Did you know that as a teen with a baby, your considered as an adult? Means that what ever you do with your child, you will be trial as an adult. So if your 16, sweetie for them your over 21.
So, if you think that by having his baby he'll stay. WRONG!!! You can't make someone stay, you can't make someone do anything. That's the biggest lie you can tell yourself. Sooner or later something happens if you keep going at it the wrong way. If you have time now to go to finish school and go to colleg...GO!!! Don't have a baby just because you need to make sure he stays or don't want to be too old. C'mon, are we really that dumb to depend on someone else to support us? Some are willing to stop their success because of someone else but thats not a healthy thing to do for yourself, not shows your future daughter how to be independent. Now if it does work out, congratulations you beat the odds, but please don't make others think it can work overall. Because it doesn't. Alot of children are being raised by a single parent and its much harder. Not just financially but emotionally and all. Why not prepare yourself to have a baby. and not wait after the fact to make something out of your life. If you wait, now you have to spend MORE money, money that YOU don't own or have for babysitter because you decided now to go back to school or get a job. IN other words, you have no money because you don't work so guess who's paying for it, your partner. (those that stay).
That's another thing, if your partner is making it in life, meaning working to get up there and your not but you need to have his baby...can you please make sure you also work to get up there in life. Make him proud of you when he introduces you. If you don't have a goal and he is wokring on his, you'll be left behind and some men would like a partner who also has a mind of her own. Intellectually. How would you feel if your friends have college dregee and talk about their expriences and when its your turn...*they hear crickets*... not a good thingt right? Then work for a better tomorrow NOW so when your ready you can have a healthy mind in picking a good dad and be an even greater mom. (we all are great oms, even when not ready).
Its a shame when you see older adults making choices that probably a 14 would (because she won't know yet). I mean, if you have friends that been there done that, why not do something a little different like...wait. How can one female who wants children show their daughters that they need to go to school first when they didn't themselves? Yea you can be an example but you shouldn't have been a static but a better example. So lets not depend on money that it aint yours and make some of your own. Save it so in case tomorrow something happen, you have something to fall back on. If you have friends, ask around how they had it, read books on teens pregnancy. (no need to be teen) Learn about past experiences and be the change.
I think Malcolm X said it better..."It is impossible to understand the present or prepare for the future unless we have some knowledge of the past."
So now, lets start working.
Its a beautiful Tuesday morning as I type this. Listening to 96.7FM K-Love radio. A station I find peace and be calm when I start listening to their wonder christian music.
I hope everyone is enjoying their Tuesday and sharing their thoughts to someone they trust. I have someone I can communicate with and I want to remind you that if you don't have someone you can talk to, I am here. I'm not a professional councelor. One thing I learned and alot of people have a hard time knowing this is that, we usually give 'advice' when we should be guiding others to decide on their own. Of course, you bring out ideas but I tend to always mention that it all depends on them and their situation. We have so many resources around us that we can use. (Excuse the people who are limited to them, sorry) What I was thinking about my life when I was younger...as in a teen having a baby. I remember thinking what in the wrong is this. I do thank some ladies in my highschool that offered me help and talked to me about different options in life. Talking to me about that it doesn't disable me to many wonderful things in life just because I will have a baby at a young age. Matter of fact, thinking right now, they were right. I had fun growing up with my kid. Playing with her like she was my younger sister. BUT please, if your a teen reading this, don't think that all was peachy and you can have a better life for yourself. It all works out to different people in different situations. Please don't mistake this that I am saying having a baby at a young age is better!
OK, so where was I...so yea, I had a few resources next to me and learn a limited information about certain things in life. Being still in highschool how was I suppose to pay for babysitter, extra food, milk, diapers, baby clothes...and more....and more. Phew!!! that was alot of things and being jobless but in school. One thing my mom told me was she wasn't going to let me drop out that I had to finish school...or she won't help. Of course, I needed the help and finshed highschool. Did exactly 4 years and got my diploma. (not those GED or special programs but the actual diploma). Was very happy to finish and having a mom and kid right next to me, supporting me. I was reaching higher.
But not all was peachy, teens keep reading..Within all that, I had to move. Move in a way that I was a teen but adult. I was always the quiet one but I had to make my voice known, somehow. I struggled with being in a relationship at first then single. Which worked out better for me and my child. I had to move in a way that I, myself had to get the resources I need to keep moving up in life. I was always scared of talking to people, thinking I was asking stupid questions or afraid I'll get lost in certain places. But I would always think abuot my child, how I need to do things for her. Kept my chin up and walked to job interviews, asked questions in the community for kindergarten (schooling), learn my way around little by little...along with my mom who was an expert already. So, I was doing things that a 15 year old shouldn't be doing at that age but at an age that was appropiate. Meaning, ready and secure to have a baby.
What I mean is that, I wasn't ready for child. I wasn't going to have an abortion nor send for adoption. I made my mind that i was going to be a mom. I wasn't ready, in every aspect of life, I wasn't. Many teens consciously, make that mistake that they are ready to have a baby. But if you knew the work you put into it, you'll agree.
Ask yourself this, do you have money right now? Not $10 dollars. I mean money that if you need to move out you have enough for a year at least? Do you have a job that pays well that you can save money, not living pay check by pay check? Do you think you'll have the support if you end up single? If so, what's the support...your parents, a descent job? There's alot of this we need to consider before having a baby. It takes alot of patients, alot of courage, alot of financial support. Now please don't think that because you are in a relationship (to teens) that will last forever (that's a different story)...and you'll have his money to depend on. I am asking YOU, YOURSELF, YOUR OWN BODY, do you have the extra money to fall back on? Are you prepared that if one day, your partner doesn't come back, you can manage on your own? Never thought of that right? Well it happens. He can promise he'll be there but it can be so over whelming that some men just leave because its too much for them. Others end the relationship and make their own life. Some may help every now and then with financial support but again, if your both teens. He's probably in the same boat, financially.
I know I may sometimes, come out to blunt about certain things in life but if no one is willing to speak to you about somesthings in life then you won't think before you act. I mean no disrespect to teens moms, I was one myself, but this part of my blog is about giving you the chance to THINK about what you want in life. Did you know that as a teen with a baby, your considered as an adult? Means that what ever you do with your child, you will be trial as an adult. So if your 16, sweetie for them your over 21.
So, if you think that by having his baby he'll stay. WRONG!!! You can't make someone stay, you can't make someone do anything. That's the biggest lie you can tell yourself. Sooner or later something happens if you keep going at it the wrong way. If you have time now to go to finish school and go to colleg...GO!!! Don't have a baby just because you need to make sure he stays or don't want to be too old. C'mon, are we really that dumb to depend on someone else to support us? Some are willing to stop their success because of someone else but thats not a healthy thing to do for yourself, not shows your future daughter how to be independent. Now if it does work out, congratulations you beat the odds, but please don't make others think it can work overall. Because it doesn't. Alot of children are being raised by a single parent and its much harder. Not just financially but emotionally and all. Why not prepare yourself to have a baby. and not wait after the fact to make something out of your life. If you wait, now you have to spend MORE money, money that YOU don't own or have for babysitter because you decided now to go back to school or get a job. IN other words, you have no money because you don't work so guess who's paying for it, your partner. (those that stay).
That's another thing, if your partner is making it in life, meaning working to get up there and your not but you need to have his baby...can you please make sure you also work to get up there in life. Make him proud of you when he introduces you. If you don't have a goal and he is wokring on his, you'll be left behind and some men would like a partner who also has a mind of her own. Intellectually. How would you feel if your friends have college dregee and talk about their expriences and when its your turn...*they hear crickets*... not a good thingt right? Then work for a better tomorrow NOW so when your ready you can have a healthy mind in picking a good dad and be an even greater mom. (we all are great oms, even when not ready).
Its a shame when you see older adults making choices that probably a 14 would (because she won't know yet). I mean, if you have friends that been there done that, why not do something a little different like...wait. How can one female who wants children show their daughters that they need to go to school first when they didn't themselves? Yea you can be an example but you shouldn't have been a static but a better example. So lets not depend on money that it aint yours and make some of your own. Save it so in case tomorrow something happen, you have something to fall back on. If you have friends, ask around how they had it, read books on teens pregnancy. (no need to be teen) Learn about past experiences and be the change.
I think Malcolm X said it better..."It is impossible to understand the present or prepare for the future unless we have some knowledge of the past."
So now, lets start working.
Monday, April 9, 2012
As we wait...
Hello Beautiful Humans,
I hope everyone has enjoyed their Easter day. I know a few know this but lately I been seeing alot of single people making wrong choices. Trying to hurry into a or, another relationship. I don't even think it should be called a relationship because that deals with two people, not one.
Well many of us want to find a partner fast because we're lonely, need companionship, need someone to be there for us...but if you ask yourself those words into questions, has the partners been there as that? I mean the last 'relationship' didn't last long enough and was he (narrowing it down, could be 'she' as well) there for you? Was he quiet enough to listen and understand you and help you out somehow? If you answer no, then sweetie let's think about the choices we make.
First off, we don't need someone, another human to make us whole. I know we all need someone to feel love and recieve hugs, but we don't desperately need someone for that. We need to accept the quietness that surrounds us. We need to mediatate about what we really need, and not just want. You can want many things but it doesn't mean you actually need that in your life. If your a person who yearns for affection, then the most ideal one for you would be an affectionate one. So in order to find a person like that, you need to be full with affection from yourself. To leanr the difference of fake affection. Meaning liers, those people who just want to be there for a few minutes.
We all makes mistakes, no doubt about that. But we do need to realize that the loniness and quietness of not having a relationship is the time for you to learn about your deeper thoughts. We grow everyday and when given the chance, we need to accept that. Now I don't mean you sit down doing nothing, but as you go out you see new people, learn their habits and actually asks yourself would you like it in 5 years from now? Would you still find it cute as you do now?
Also, remembering what went wrong in the past 'relationships' can help. If your partner made you feel a certain way you did not approve then look for the opposite of that characteristic. Take your time to explore the other person before making any long time decisions. Is like doing your homework and studying on that specific person.
Certain male friends have told me that they would have chosen me as the mother of their children if they knew where they would be landing. Brings me a smile but also concern because men also need to do their homework on girls. If you know she ain't the right one then don't make her your childrens mother. I seen that repeat so many times that everyone screams, "I told you so".
Its not a funny situation but a concerning one because of you just know what you need for yourself, for your tomorrow, for next year then narrowing down an ideal partner can help you make a wiser choice. But as I said, we all keep growing and always learning about things in life. So lets take time to learn and work for what YOU really need than want...so you can learn to appreciate the good part and the not so good part of the real relationship you deserve.
Until next time, be safe and keep laughing. Its the best medicine out there!
I hope everyone has enjoyed their Easter day. I know a few know this but lately I been seeing alot of single people making wrong choices. Trying to hurry into a or, another relationship. I don't even think it should be called a relationship because that deals with two people, not one.
Well many of us want to find a partner fast because we're lonely, need companionship, need someone to be there for us...but if you ask yourself those words into questions, has the partners been there as that? I mean the last 'relationship' didn't last long enough and was he (narrowing it down, could be 'she' as well) there for you? Was he quiet enough to listen and understand you and help you out somehow? If you answer no, then sweetie let's think about the choices we make.
First off, we don't need someone, another human to make us whole. I know we all need someone to feel love and recieve hugs, but we don't desperately need someone for that. We need to accept the quietness that surrounds us. We need to mediatate about what we really need, and not just want. You can want many things but it doesn't mean you actually need that in your life. If your a person who yearns for affection, then the most ideal one for you would be an affectionate one. So in order to find a person like that, you need to be full with affection from yourself. To leanr the difference of fake affection. Meaning liers, those people who just want to be there for a few minutes.
We all makes mistakes, no doubt about that. But we do need to realize that the loniness and quietness of not having a relationship is the time for you to learn about your deeper thoughts. We grow everyday and when given the chance, we need to accept that. Now I don't mean you sit down doing nothing, but as you go out you see new people, learn their habits and actually asks yourself would you like it in 5 years from now? Would you still find it cute as you do now?
Also, remembering what went wrong in the past 'relationships' can help. If your partner made you feel a certain way you did not approve then look for the opposite of that characteristic. Take your time to explore the other person before making any long time decisions. Is like doing your homework and studying on that specific person.
Certain male friends have told me that they would have chosen me as the mother of their children if they knew where they would be landing. Brings me a smile but also concern because men also need to do their homework on girls. If you know she ain't the right one then don't make her your childrens mother. I seen that repeat so many times that everyone screams, "I told you so".
Until next time, be safe and keep laughing. Its the best medicine out there!
Friday, April 6, 2012
I'm Back!!
I'm glad to be back!! I found many other wonderful bloggers and I hope they follow me too!
So I was wondering where to start. I been away for a while because I was sick, then my laptop was out. That made it worse since I only had my cell for communication. How electronics has become such a big part of our life that we need it for everyday use.
I was thinking along the way of how to make my blog better for you all. I mean I would like to see more people participating. I can direct it under one topic. I also like to type about myself, quotes and certains things in life that peeople are afraid of talking. For instance, domestic violence, rape, child molestation. I can go and typer about myself and some domestic violence things and of course quotes. I have come across so many wonderful quotes from Fb and other sites that I want to share. So lets see how it goes.
For those of you that celebrate Easter, HAPPY EASTER. If you don't thats ok. Enjoy the weekend and hugs all around!!
So I was wondering where to start. I been away for a while because I was sick, then my laptop was out. That made it worse since I only had my cell for communication. How electronics has become such a big part of our life that we need it for everyday use.
I was thinking along the way of how to make my blog better for you all. I mean I would like to see more people participating. I can direct it under one topic. I also like to type about myself, quotes and certains things in life that peeople are afraid of talking. For instance, domestic violence, rape, child molestation. I can go and typer about myself and some domestic violence things and of course quotes. I have come across so many wonderful quotes from Fb and other sites that I want to share. So lets see how it goes.
For those of you that celebrate Easter, HAPPY EASTER. If you don't thats ok. Enjoy the weekend and hugs all around!!
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