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Hello Beautiful World,

I have been missing some days here but I'm still around. Not alot has happen but one thing caught my eye and my thoughtie nerve. Now we all know how is hard raising our kid(s) in a world that has so many corners and ideas of what we "should" be like. First, let me say, I am not against anyone who is GLBT but does include a little on the life style.
Ok, so a mom decides to name her kid a cute name. Cute enough even for a boy or girl. No worries because names we can change along the way. Let me cut this short, in my opinion (which we all are entitled to) this lady is doing an experiment with her kids. LOL. I am including a link but seriously, letting your kid(s) decide in what they want to be a male or female, or dress as a girl being a boy. THEN the son says he wants the peeople to know he is a boy. DING DING DING!!!!! Helloooooo is your son telling you something. He knows he is a boy, he wants it to be known.

smh, another thing, her son(s) is being homeschool. Why? Is there a reason you don't want them to see the world? I mean if you sooooo want them to pick what they want to be or "discover what they want to be", then let them see their choices out in the world... Let them go to school, interact with others, let them feel what it is to be where they are. I'm not wishing for bulling for them or any kid, but to me it seems that you want a shortcut to the teachings of motherhood.

Lets think about this...
GirlA- grows into teens to have a strong head on her shoulders that she knows she is capable of deciding what she wants. She dresses boyish because its comfortable, nothing wrong with that.
GirlB- quiet, smart, also knows what she wants, dresses femine, too introvert because lack of communications to the outside (school or other)
BoyA-likes to dress as a girl at home only, know he is a he, strong, talkative, making sure others knows he is a male by his playful actions or gestures. Too outthere, in other words, needs to let others know who he is.
BoyB-dresses like a boy, because lack of communication too quiet, confused at certain things in life,

I don't want to make this long but eightor way, as we grow we each learn that people out there will make fun of others. Because of this we as parents have this protective instinct for our kids, but letting them to "discover themselves" seems too naive to me, especially at what 2, c'mon. We are here to guide them and this is not guiding this is letting them think MORE than "Can I get more ice scream".

Ok, you are doing this...but do we not think how the later days, weeks, years will be like for them. Is there going to be a confusing as in "mom you should have told me I can't wear pink". (BoyA)
In my opinion, if a mom choses to raise her kids another form, then its fine but think about it in the future too. I know many of us wants to make a point to the world, but sometimes we go a little to far, in respect to this mom and her family, a little to far to use our kids and test the waters out.

I really hope her method works out somehow, because I am not thinking of how bad she will look if it doesnt....I'm thinking more of the childrens self esteem and way of thinking towards the world. If we look closely we can find that the world is a nice place to live, even with those idiot comments that some humans make.

I do wish her well and all.

ekkkkk!!! xoxo

ps read the comments in link
http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_thelookout/20110524/ts_yblog_thelookout/parents-keep-childs-gender-under-wraps

Mom

Hello Beautiful World,

Today a special day for all Mothers out there. Not only those who gave birth but for those who took in children who need a parent, that care that their own couldn't give. I saw many people today around my community buying beautiful flowers, Edibles (fruits), restaurants busy all day. A day that alot of women were recognixed and thanked.
I wanted to thank my mom for her tough but learning upbringing. If it wasn't for her my road would probably be in a different setting. Every time I am confused about something or feel like riding off the rode, she just tells me some words and her encouragements pull me back on track. 
My faith has grown more because of her, the way I look at things calmer is because of her. I am more alert than ever because of my parents. I know what I NEED in my life and the type of people that are right to be trustworthy to be near them. 
I want ot thank her because I am strong because of my mom.

My strength 
My faith
My way of living the right way
My ideal thoughts of love
With her teachings, My everything has become better.
And with God of course, all has been in place because is a place we can handle right now.

I hope everyone had a wonderful day today!!
xoxo

Sad News

 First and foremost, my condolensces to my friends family that lost a son this week. My family will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Hello World,

This week has been a sad one for two family. One of them, I have known the mom for a while because of volunteer job I did. Other I known because child goes to a near by school.
One 14 year old (near by school) who had suffer seizures had one and was in the shower. He went straight to coma and unfortunately, he passed away on Tuesday. One of his teacher had visited him before, next day the kids had test but I think they canceled it because of him. And kids weren't in their right state of mind thinking of their friend. It's a shame how a boy who is about to graduate 8th grade passes away. I know God has his reason and no yes, he is in a better place where he will feel more comfortable and happier with what God has for him. I do feel sadden for his family, being so young this boy. I'm sorry for your loss C.M. familia.

The second one was next morning, a friend calls the house to say our other friend had lost her son. That he was killed. Shocked, frozen in place, but why? I mean how can someone WE know die. Of course, I see it now, it can happen to anyone and anywhere. I'm still shocked because this is a friends son. A son who's mother I chatted with, a mom who did everything for her children. Very sad.
I can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster that this mom is feeling. The trauma she will feel when she sees grandkids and feels someone missing. i don't wish her no negativity but I am speaking my mimd out. Being a paraniod parent, not sleeping well because some nights I will be up checking if my kid is breathing, is something that I can manage now. But going through something worse, I will definately black out. Lord, you know what road you give to each mom with their kids. And I am sure you have your reason for this. Maybe this son is better off with him near you than anyone else. Maybe his road was served better as an angle to look after his family. Maybe you Lord, saw here in the ground his actions were too intense and his mind will be at ease to help out his family from above. Because he is strong enough to be with you and cherish his family as it should. Because you, Lord know that his life is precious in a way that he needed to be an angle in heaven.

There are somethings I don't understand but somehow writing here, helps me out a bit to understand. or should I say have a slightly understanding of why. It is hard to lose someone you love. it's a hard rough road but I have heard it gets better within time. Better as in you accept and are at ease with the beautiful memories shared. I don't know what to say to things like this but what I know is that you, P.S. (mom) you will be alright. because you will have friends and family to comfort you in a way you never realized they could. We love you no matter what in this world.

Link: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2011/05/03/2011-05-03_geuris_tejada_24yearold_father_shot_dead_after_fight_with_three_people_in_manhat.html

There mothers out there who cherish their kids, even if they are criminal, but then there are females who have a child but don't deserve to be called mothers because of the horror they do to their child. For exampl, 11 year was in forster care because mom sold drugs, was taken by a pedophile who made her do things that when she escaped was angry. Can you imagine a 11 year old being sold to men who are pedophiles. No? neightor can I. Neightor can I.http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_local/2011/05/01/2011-05-01_sexslave_horror_story_for_a_little_girl.html

 Or how about a kid found eating herself in a cage: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2011/05/04/2011-05-04_virginia_girl_found_eating_herself_in_cage_in_mobile_home_parents_brian_and_shan.html

Solve Me?

Hello World,

Another beautiful day like today. Well I was told recently, that I was a person that couldn't be 'solved".

Are you laughing, because I am, LOL!!! I was laughing then felt bad for this guy because if he has told this to other girls, which I am sure he did, man he's gonna have a heck of  girl problems. So I'm looking back at his dilema, Yes dilema, he says the regular lines that guys say and I laugh because he thinks that I (and all) will believe him. I mean are you fucking serious that on the 3rd text I am going to say "I Love You". Puff outta here boy!!

We don't know each others twitter page and you think I will be all snugglie with you. Nah! So because we all know that ALL types of relationship take time, he assume (HATE that), so he asumed that there was a "we" already. Ummmm, no! because I was taking my time and living my life, not revolving in his life, I was a person I couldn't be "solved".

Now where would someone get that phrase to say to someone? You want to solve me, you want to know everything and do what with it? use it against me. First of all you can't use it against me because there is no way shape or form, that you or anyone can solve me. Or any other person. there's no solving anyone. You have to be an idiot to say that.

So as the beautiful days pass and I still keep myself happy, because I do own myself, then I am being compared to someone who, lets say is not walking on the right path in life..And again I laugh because if someone would want to TRY and make me feel bad, then do it with someone who is actually up there. Up there in life. LOL!!

I wanted to share this now because before, in my youthful years, still young though, lol, I use to let it get to me but now, I just brush it off! I listen and study the person who tells me stupidity and realize, baby your worse than thet shit I left before. So I keep walking and when it comes to try and stop me....Boy, the look in my eye tells it all.

OK, I know, many guys/girls need to grow up but I'm talking personal here so pardon the dummies out there but you need to step your game up. Some of you wonder why you can't be with one girl, stop wondering because if your on Facebook and talking to all these girls, saying the same stories and you will get busted...you then delete those conversations when girls ask you specific questions about it...you nerve up and disappear. LOL!! Funny right, then please play the game right, otherwise, leave it for the men out there who can satisfy the girls and still leave with dignity.

C'mon, don't say you don't it...We all done it, at least one time. And enjoyed it, hehehe.

Now I can talk forever on this, but like I have said before, I am someone who you can't solve. We always try and pretend to solve someone else's problems when you need to STFU and solve yours first. Me, I am a female that you may think I am one way but please don't under estimate the quiet.

You can't solve something you don't hear or know. Study first then talk to me.

xoxo

-sweetmanhattangirl-

continuation...

from the post before this one...

Hello World,

I wanted to post something about this for a while but I will not take too much of space for this because it's an ongoing action happening. Happening everywhere, behind closed doors. Other times, outside.

Do you remember one night when your neighbor was making too much nosie? Or when there was an all-of-the-sudden- rumble from upstairs? How about when a scream was heard then silence? Or kids running everywhere and a deep voice screaming? Have you even wonder what can it be.

Maybe some chairs or a sofa being dragged from one room to another. Or was daddy playing with the kids. How about if something fell from the top cabinet and no one was home.

We don't know exactly until something in the air isn't right the next day. I have written a few things to post here but somehow I lost it. But please, don't feel bad about my opinions here. Afterall, we can all have a Voice! So start talking...

Domestic Violence, from physical to emotional and mentally. DV, something most of us ladies are afraid to tell others if they are going through it. I have spoken with alot of new friends and some others online and alot of us ladies do go through DV. (there's other topics but another post) Well the majority are scared and need time to get ready to leave. Ready as in employement, school or even having a plan to escape. Yes, escape. Can you believe that? Someone who probably took vowels with you, and your family there to hear it and all of the sudden you feel his smack. (DV can be towards males too but this post is about females). 

How can someone that you love and LOVES you back, have the courage or low mentality to smack or kick you, or degrade you with words that you hear in highschool. There's no reason why a love one should hurt a human being they love! For this post I will say "him" as the abuser. Not saying it's all the males fault. 

There are times I get scared and angry when I hear he hits her. Scared because one day I'll end up hearing she died because of him and angry because she couldn't step up for herself. Since he uses all types abuse, starting from making her feel bad about herself and upgrading it for her to feel that she is not worth to get help or anything. There are reasons why a man would change, could be that he going through some unconscious dilema from his childhood rape, or seen DV at home when he was a kid himself. But if you know as an adult whats wrong and right, why choose to hit your partner. Is there something you want to control from her, because if she has been there for you and is doing something out of her life for you and the kids...why bring that down?
I get that some ladies can't get out because of financial needs, lack of qualifications for job(s), no real close realiable friends or family...BUT there is a door. To everything in life there's a door, to escape from what your going through. It may take time and patience but if your going though this, make a plan to escape.
I remember when I was younger my family use to tell me, "if a man tries to touch you or hit you, you have to kick his balls"..lmao!!! funny but true. Otherwise, cook him a good meal and "serve" it to him. Serve it hot because every hungry man deserves a well cooked meal, right ladies. I learn that from Madea. Remember her? Well google her and you'll see.

To end this, I want to say that next time, you see a smiling, happy lady and you want to degrade her or act stupid with her (both genders) then think twice. Because she may be at the supermarket all lovely but behind her closed doors, she may be another type of lady. An abused one, a lady who feel unworth and scared to say something. Just smile at her, it goes a long way for her.

Thanks for reading will update more on this as my time is not too occupied.
xoxox
-sweetmanhattangirl-